Fear and Mindfulness in Career - CCNJ Leadership Series 

Everyone is a leader - either by choice or by default. Whenever you interact with anyone else (and yourself) you are leading. So the question is not “Will you lead?”  It is “How well will you lead?”  I discovered this quotation as a coaching student while studying at the iPEC-coaching school.  I believe it means that minute-by-minute we have a choice about giving in to fear or transforming ourselves and moving towards fearlessness.  

             I coach people to be leaders in life and in career and to consciously and intentionally participate in their personal development.  Whether one is alone in meditation, helping children with homework, or leading a group of peers at work, we make leadership decisions throughout the day. 

             Whether we are searching for a job; creating a vision for our career; or deciding how to make a meaningful difference at work, to be successful demands a person face their fear and take bold and decisive action. 

             Many of us seek out material independence as a way to achieve freedom and diminish our fears.  Others prefer to find someone special to share their life with and enjoy real support from a significant other.  Regardless of how successful you are at those endeavors, and I wish you tremendous success, it is not possible to have a life free from fear.  My point is to aim for living a life as free from fear as possible.  In fact the more I personally experience the fearless life the more I understand that it defines what freedom is all about. 

             A talented executive may hold herself back from the recognition and material success she wants and deserves based on fear of taking a risk.  A job seeker may hold back from expressing himself authentically in the personal branding process based of fear of missing out on a nonexistent offer.  A salesperson may not make the important follow-up call to a key client for fear of rejection.  A man doesn’t ask a woman out on a date because of fear of rebuff. 

             Fear is created by the thoughts we generate in our mind.  The thoughts create feelings that can negatively influence our decisions; literally can make us ill; and distract us from using the common sense and intuition which are our best guides.  Ultimately there is no insurance policy or 100% guarantee that will prevent uncertainty, pain, and confusion in our life.  If someone is pointing a gun at you be scared and try to retain composure.  However, most of our fears don’t actually exist.  We create them ourselves.  We are masters at worry and projecting the worst possible outcome. 

 What to do now? 

             First of all, make a decision to play the game of life and career at the highest level possible.  Commit to step-by-step self-improvement and continuous learning.    

             Secondly, find a Mindfulness practice that you are comfortable routinely doing.  My definition of Mindfulness means calmly and quietly observing your thoughts, feelings, words, and behavior.  You’ll probably find that there is a lot of repetition in your thoughts.  Also, you may discover that many times throughout the day it’s easy to dwell on a handful of negative matters over and over again.  The Mindfulness process helps in seeing what your thoughts are, what you fear, and how often you repeat them day-after-day.  Remember the principle, “What you focus on expands.”  

             Thirdly, you’ll want to begin working on transforming those fearful thoughts into positive and constructive ones.  There are practical ways to do it. 

             Some of my clients participate in Mindfulness exercises that include breathing, contemplation, meditation, and self-observation.  We create practical strategies to achieve our career objectives and goals and simultaneously do the inner work that diminishes the fear that would otherwise be an obstacle to success. 

             As they begin to diminish fear and take action it literally makes them happier and more content.  They are continuous learners.  They are less harshly judgmental of themselves and other people.  One client states, “I no longer lower my expectations of myself and when I make a ‘bad’ decision I just let it go and I repeat my mistakes less often.  I move on and know what happened without harsh judgment and don’t define myself based on a decision.”  They become more open to opportunity and learning during negative situations.  In the words of one client, “I see what is driving me.  I pay attention.  I don’t have to act on it knowing that it is an urge.  I am now okay with less activity and silence.”

 I am curious how you practice Mindfulness in your daily life.  Please let me know.  Return home


Brought to you by:

Neil Cooper
Certified Coach & Mentor
Career Transition and Leadership

Graduate of iPEC Coaching in Shrewsbury NJ



Skype: CooperLeadershipCoaching

Twitter: @CareerCoachNJ

Everyone is a leader—either by choice or by default.
Whenever you interact with anyone else (and yourself) you are leading.
So the question is not “Will you lead?” but rather “How well will you lead?”

(c) 2012 – 2014

Please feel free to connect with me on Linked In at http://www.linkedin.com/in/neilcooper711

Privacy Policy                         Terms and Conditions                         Refund Policy  

Thriving in a Complex World
As the business landscape becomes increasingly more complex companies have a powerful need for talented people to navigate current programs and problems as well as create and innovate the future.
VIP Intensive Coaching
The VIP Program provides you with the wisdom on how to set up and implement your job search. You will learn best practices and a success system to achieve the results you are looking for.
Reinvest in Me - Making a Difference
Our mission is to empower people who want to align their careers with their personal values and make a genuine difference through work
Group Coaching Registration Page
The quality of your career search is in direct proportion to the choices you make now. When you opt to carefully plan and then make a conscious choice to act on your plan you will find your dream job.
Webinar Registration Page 2
Sales page 2 for May Job Search Success Accelerator webinar
Visionary 1-on-1 Career Coaching and Mentoring
Make a quantum leap in the results from the existing job search with a 1-on-1 coaching partnership. Establish a success strategy for your future. Nothing is more potent than personal training.
Accelerate your career search and land a job. Receive expert coaching, guidance, and feedback from a successful career coach. Discuss career goals; Analyze your search and where you want it to be.
Book Neil As Your Next Speaker
Speaking Engagements Page
The Benefits of a Written Plan
How many of you have taken the time to put together a written plan for your business and job search, and then analyzed the most effective ways to implement it?
Prioritize Your Time and Get Great Results
What kind of challenges are you having putting together all the monthly, weekly, and daily activities required to accelerate your job search.
Landing a Job Is Not That Important
I have noticed a significant trend among my clients. There is a huge difference between the ones who are genuinely dedicated to landing a job and those who are merely interested in it.
How to Reach Out to People When You Fear Rejection?
During the career search we will have to make calls that can feel overwhelming. We know how important it is to connect with strangers to build strategic alliances,
How to Recover From the Networking Blues
Networking is an essential ingredient to a successful job search and keeping a business consistently filled with new prospects and clients.
Leadership and Career Assessment
The Assessment is attitudinal and based on an energy/action model. It differs from personality assessments as it is not intended to label a person and have them work well within that label.
Ace Your Next Interview
At the beginning of my workshops I introduce myself to the audience and endeavor to build rapport in the first minutes of the presentation.
Time Management is a Huge Problem
Time management is the huge problem even in a structured work environment, and the job search is not a structured environment unless you make it so.
How Does Your Website Portfolio Fit into the Marketing Plan?
A website portfolio can be an invaluable tool in creating a marketing presence. It becomes a valuable asset as you get further into the process.
I deeply appreciate the testimonials provided by actual clients.
Contact Form
contact form
Strategies to Build Your Network
Networking is the key to finding a new job. Networking has always been a fact of life in business and today it is the single most effective way to find your new career.
How Does Your Website Portfolio Fit into the Marketing Plan?
A website portfolio can be an invaluable tool in creating a marketing presence. As you begin the job search and start a business, it is not one of the first steps to take.
How Am I Doing With My Job Search
Ed Koch, ex-Mayor of NYC, would famously shout out to the world, “How I am doing?” It’s a great question and one all job seekers should be routinely asking themselves.
Events Page
The latest live and virtual events on the Career Coach NJ Calendar.
Climbing Higher in Your Career
Welcome to a new work week. How will you set yourself up for enjoyment and success? Organize a calendar and plan your activities to fulfill your career and personal objectives.
How to Beat the Job Search Doldrums?
Playing the career game at a high level is a strenuous path. It is more like the stock market with its substantial ups and downs than a straight line to success. It’s easy to get “depressed”
Questions that Encourage Engagement and Organization in the Job Search
As a coach I ask a lot of questions. I also listen very carefully to hear what a client really means by engaging all my senses and reading in between the lines.
Mastermind Groups
Are you seeking support in your job search or business development? Bruce Schneider, founder of iPEC Coaching school states, “Develop a support system. You don’t succeed in life alone.”
Bold Steps to Outstanding Leadership
People currently occupied in any aspect of building a career face tests that can seem overwhelming. Leadership skills make a decisive difference to your successful performance;
First Steps to Create a Great Marketing Profile
A high profile marketing presence is a key to an exceptional career search. It is a vital part of the marketing plan because it builds the chemistry known as the “know, like, and trust” factor
Education is not a luxury; It is a necessity!
A recommendation for job seekers is about continuing education. Employers are seeking educated and skilled executives and managers with high level of expertise and know how to apply it on the job.
A Personal Brand Will Help You Thrive
It is important to have a marketing profile that clearly tells the story about you, your career, and your aspirations. It takes some time to develop and yet it is well worth it.
You are Unique? How will you show it?
You are unique! How will you show it? Personal branding is a key ingredient to a successful job search. You cannot keep your knowledge, skills, and talents a secret and find a job.
The First Step You Must Take to Find a Great Career
To effectively perform your job search at a high level it is essential to clearly define your career objectives. Without identifying your objectives it will substantially prevent finding a position
How Do Other People Make You a Success?
Today let’s talk about the importance of bringing positive influences into your life, and specifically let’s talk about who you associate with.
Opportunity Doesn’t Knock Until You Invite It To
People want more employer responses, more interviews, more informal introductions, and more intelligence about how to make great contacts to create the opportunity they deserve.
The Number 1 Most Important Career Skill Is
The number 1 most important career expertise is dynamic communication skills. Whether you are talking 1-to-1 with your boss, engaged in a group meeting with peers,
The Most Important Communication Skill is
At school we’re not taught very much about listening. Most of the time is focused on writing and other forms of communication, and yet we spend much more time listening than we do writing etc.
Silence is Golden
The practice of listening is basically being silent and still simultaneously. When listening intuitively you are not thinking about anything;
Making a Difference With Your Career
How to make a difference with your career? We are responsible for our accomplishments. Fully commit to finding your unique mission you raise the chances of experiencing dramatic success
Influencing Others
In all areas of life bringing a positive energy and a highly engaged spirit is inspirational and motivational.
Your Leadership Mindset is Paramount to Success
Success in the business world requires genuine dedication. Especially in today’s economic environment being an effective leader is not a job for the faint hearted.
The Most Important Leadership Quality
The most important leadership quality is fearlessness. It is embracing our inner strength, confidence, and tranquility.
Success with Your LinkedIn Profile
LinkedIn continues to be an extremely important career tool. It is a great way to demonstrate your leadership skills and how well you have developed as an executive.
Fear and Mindfulness in Your Career
Everyone is a leader - either by choice or by default. Whenever you interact with anyone else (and yourself) you are leading.
Social Media and Building Your Movement
Social media is a multi-faceted and integral part of business whether you are building a business or enhancing a career.
On Being an Influential Leader
A leader’s influence has everything to do with their way of being. In order to establish strong personal relationships and team collaborations it requires advanced management knowledge and skills.
Health Wellness and Leadership
I enjoy practicing many aspects of health and wellness in my daily life. The idea of sports, exercise, and good nutrition is almost as near and dear to me as breathing.
Networking Makes All the Difference
Networking makes all the difference in finding a job, achieving powerful results on the job, and in improving our personal lives.
Personal Branding and the Pain of Childbirth
In the summer of 2012 I begin to develop my personal brand in a manner that would establish credibility with my target audience.
The Essence of Networking
Focus on removing the obstacles to success. One of those important obstacles may be the lack of a clear understanding and appreciation of what networking is;
A Good Example of Bad Leadership
Rarely do we get to see a public exhibition of bad leadership such as we recently witnessed in the U.S. Congress.
High Unemployment High Vacancies Are You In-demand
There is a growing group of executives and managers who are chronically churning from job-to-job often as contractors or part-time employees. It is a painful way to live economically and emotionally
Damn New Year’s Resolutions: Achieve Freedom in 2014!
It’s the New Year and we’re setting goals, making affirmations, offering promises, and committing to new actions.
The Most Important Action You'll Do Today
I encourage people to play the career game at the highest level that they are capable of at the moment. I implore them to follow, “Neil’s No Procrastination Rule.” “If it’s a priority do it now.”